Six Reason Why People commit suicide

Though I’ve never lost a friend or family member to suicide, I have lost a patient.
I have known a number of people left behind by the suicide of people close to them, however. Given how much losing my patient affected me, I’ve only been able to guess at the devastation these people have experienced. Pain mixed with guilt, anger, and regret makes for a bitter drink, the taste of which I’ve seen take many months or even years to wash out of some mouths.
The one question everyone has asked without exception, that they ache to have answered more than any other, is simply, why?

Why did their friend, child, parent, spouse, or sibling take their own life? Even when a note explaining the reasons is found, lingering questions usually remain: yes, they felt enough despair to want to die, but why did they feel that? A person’s suicide often takes the people it leaves behind by surprise (only accentuating survivor’s guilt for failing to see it coming).
People who’ve survived suicide attempts have reported wanting not so much to die as to stop living, a strange dichotomy but a valid one nevertheless. If some in-between state existed, some other alternative to death, I suspect many suicidal people would take it. For the sake of all those reading this who might have been left behind by someone’s suicide, I wanted to describe how I was trained to think about the reasons people kill themselves. They’re not as intuitive as most think.
In general, people try to kill themselves for six reasons:


1. They’re depressed.
This is without question the most common reason people commit suicide. Severe depression is always accompanied by a pervasive sense of suffering as well as the belief that escape from it is hopeless. The pain of existence often becomes too much for severely depressed people to bear. The state of depression warps their thinking, allowing ideas like “Everyone would all be better off without me” to make rational sense. They shouldn’t be blamed for falling prey to such distorted thoughts any more than a heart patient should be blamed for experiencing chest pain: it’s simply the nature of their disease.
Because depression, as we all know, is almost always treatable, we should all seek to recognize its presence in our close friends and loved ones. Often people suffer with it silently, planning suicide without anyone ever knowing. Despite making both parties uncomfortable, inquiring directly about suicidal thoughts in my experience almost always yields an honest response. If you suspect someone might be depressed, don’t allow your tendency to deny the possibility of suicidal ideation prevent you from asking about it.


2. They’re psychotic.
Malevolent inner voices often command self-destruction for unintelligible reasons. Psychosis is much harder to mask than depression — and arguably even more tragic. The worldwide incidence of schizophrenia is 1% and often strikes otherwise healthy, high-performing individuals, whose lives, though manageable with medication, never fulfill their original promise.
Schizophrenics are just as likely to talk freely about the voices commanding them to kill themselves as not, and also, in my experience, give honest answers about thoughts of suicide when asked directly. Psychosis, too, is treatable, and usually must be for a schizophrenic to be able to function at all. Untreated or poorly treated psychosis almost always requires hospital admission to a locked ward until the voices lose their commanding power.


3. They’re impulsive.
Often related to drugs and alcohol, some people become maudlin and impulsively attempt to end their own lives. Once sobered and calmed, these people usually feel emphatically ashamed. The remorse is usually genuine, and whether or not they’ll ever attempt suicide again is unpredictable. They may try it again the very next time they become drunk or high, or never again in their lifetime. Hospital admission is therefore not usually indicated. Substance abuse and the underlying reasons for it are generally a greater concern in these people and should be addressed as aggressively as possible.


4. They’re crying out for help, and don’t know how else to get it.
These people don’t usually want to die but do want to alert those around them that something is seriously wrong. They often don’t believe they will die, frequently choosing methods they don’t think can kill them in order to strike out at someone who’s hurt them—but are sometimes tragically misinformed. The prototypical example of this is a young teenage girl suffering genuine angst because of a relationship, either with a friend, boyfriend, or parent who swallows a bottle of Tylenol—not realizing that in high enough doses Tylenol causes irreversible liver damage.
I’ve watched more than one teenager die a horrible death in an ICU days after such an ingestion when remorse has already cured them of their desire to die and their true goal of alerting those close to them of their distress has been achieved.


5. They have a philosophical desire to die.
  The decision to commit suicide for some is based on a reasoned decision often motivated by the presence of a painful terminal illness from which little to no hope of reprieve exists. These people aren’t depressed, psychotic, maudlin, or crying out for help. They’re trying to take control of their destiny and alleviate their own suffering, which usually can only be done in death. They often look at their choice to commit suicide as a way to shorten a dying that will happen regardless. In my personal view, if such people are evaluated by a qualified professional who can reliably exclude the other possibilities for why suicide is desired, these people should be allowed to die at their own hands.


6. They’ve made a mistake.
This is a recent, tragic phenomenon in which typically young people flirt with oxygen deprivation for the high it brings and simply go too far. The only defense against this, it seems to me, is education.
The wounds suicide leaves in the lives of those left behind by it are often deep and long lasting. The apparent senselessness of suicide often fuels the most significant pain survivors feel. Thinking we all deal better with tragedy when we understand its underpinnings, I’ve offered the preceding paragraphs in hopes that anyone reading this who’s been left behind by a suicide might be able to more easily find a way to move on, to relinquish their guilt and anger, and find closure. Despite the abrupt way you may have been left, those don’t have to be the only two emotions you’re doomed to feel about the one who left you.

EMO MAKE UP TUTORIAL

› Emo Makeup

The ten easy steps to achieve a perfect 'emo makeup' that will give boost your self confidence and you will start dating all the emo chicks from your city...at once, guaranteed...Well, not really, but this is a good tutorial nevertheless.
Starts with laying out all the tools.

1.Moistureizer on a clean face, the moisturizer being MAC's Strobe Cream in this instance (the pot is just a sample, that I got. I think its time for a larger tube now).




2. Primer over the moisturizer (thick), many primers come in a small pot or something mine happens to come in a little tube that has a wand not that much unlike lip-gloss. This Urban Decay primer is the only non MAC product I use.

3.Base shadow, I used Nocturnelle with a 242 applicator brush. The shadow should go over the entire lid up to the crease.
Dark areas on the inner and outer areas of the lid. I used my 242 again with Signed and Sealed eye shadow.

4. Now the defining color in this case being Swish. Applied once more with the 242. The defining color should be applied in a sort of T shape going from the middle of the lid where there is just base up into the crease.

5. Now blend these two with a 217, so as to meld or smooth out the lines.

6. Now add the blending color with the 242 which in this case is Vapour. A very light, very sparkly pink. Each color starting with the defining color is begging to move up the eyes towards the brow. This blending color should be right below the brow.

7. Mascara. I like to do mine now so that I can work the liner into it later on. I like to apply mascara first from the bottom of the upper lashes at the base and then work on the top to plump the up. As for the bottom lashes just stick some on them, they 're a bugger to define. You 'll probably get a little here and there around your eyes, I like to use a Q-Tip with a bit of moistureizer on the tip to remove it after its dried.

8. Liner I like to use a liquid liner by MAC called Fluidline (Blacktrack) and a 266 brush to apply it. I like to apply it on my upper and and lower water lines or inner lid.

9. Any foundations or blushes. I used a blush that sslightly darker than my skin tone to define my jaw.

10. Done!

Hope you enjoyed our emo makeup tutorial.

EMO HAIRSTYLE

     Emo hair and face:

- painted or naturally black hair should be cut  off exactly on half of forehead. It is better to make thick  bang. Put some flocks ahead and some side curls on ears and behind;
- whiskers are needed anyway;
- hair should better be disheveled and stuck out in different ways;
- hair on the nape should be  also tousled and raised;
- the best variant is to cut off hair shortly enough in a back part of the head and then make some thorns with help of gel;
- you can add some purple colour to your bang. The bang hangs down, closing one eye, and reaches a cheek;
- almost white face, with pale  lips, which are  almost the same tone as the skin, brightly coloured eyes. It is even possible to make some black paths from the imaginary cosmetics washed away by tears on the face. And it is possible to add the teardrops drawn with a black pencil

     The advice: while your hair is still growing  and reaching a necessary length for an emo-sight,  beter  brush it in the direction, you have planned from the beginning. In such way you’ll  "get used" your hair to keep the necessary direction all the time.

 

    Emo haircuts:
     It doesn’t matter whether you’re a boy or a girl, use hairpins and gel for giving a necessary design for your haircut. So, in case you have wavy hair, use hairspray/gel to "calm down’’ and smooth it. Besides, use a qualitative shampoo to humidify the hair, then you can keep it straight and not damage its  flexibility and firmness in the future. By the way, using special straightening hairpins is very convenient. Put  some casual hairpins in your hair.
Do not forget that it is not needed to provide some extreme measures. It is not necessary to wash your hair with shampoo every day because it can overdry  the hair and damage it. But you should not forget about regular washing of unfresh and dirty hair in general. Emo hairstyles assume basically one – black – colour, but you can also confidently experiment and make some combinations of black colour and other   tones. But do not get fond of it a lot, because you will than look like the clown. And it won’t be a desirable result.

     Advice 1: After three or four months your hair will already reach the necessary length and it will fall  on your forehead a lot. Visit the hairdresser who will correct some defects and, will improve your haircut, so that, it will continue to grow in the necessary direction and will get the required and desired form.
     Advice 2: Do not try to paint your hair in some tones of completely black colour because your hair will turn in blue-violet. Try to use natural black colour or, at least, the dark-chestnut.

Emo hair styles for emo girls.

EMO MEAN's

Menurut sejarah, kata - kata emo merupakan kependekan dari kata emosional. Emo, emo, emo dan emo. Adalah sebuah istilah yang sekarang ini sering sekali kita dengar baik lewat televisi, radio, percakapan sehari-hari serta digembar-gemborkan khususnya anak-anak muda. Apa sih emo itu? Malah ada juga yang berkata “emo- skinhead-punk”. Wah, terus apa pula hubungannya dengan Skinhead-punk? Apa Emo adalah bagian dari Skinhead-punk? Atau apalah!

Emotion Hardcore biasanya disebut (istilah ngetrend) Emo, adalah sebuah gaya hidup, fashion dan budaya yang baru saat sekarang ini mulai nge-boom di seluruh masyarakat dunia termasuk Indonesia. Emotion berasal dari bahasa Inggris, berarti emosi atau perasaan seseorang yang ingin diekspresikan. Sedangkan Hardcore adalah sejenis aliran musik yang memiliki tipe raungan gitar elektrik clean dan hentakkan drum yang dimainkan keras.



Dilihat dari sejarah munculnya, Emo adalah cabang atau yang lebih tepatnya adalah bentuk perkembangan dan evolusi dari Skinhead dan Punk. Emo muncul pertama kali sekitar pertengahan tahun 1980 di Washington, dan pertama kali diperkenalkan oleh band beraliran punk-melodic, DC Scene. Seperti artinya (emotion), lagu yang diusung lebih banyak mengandung unsur-unsur emosi dan perasaan seperti cinta, kasih sayang, rasa marah, kesal, dan segala sesuatu yang berhubungan erat dengan asmara dan perasaan seseorang.




Emo adalah sebuah bentuk merosotnya suatu makna ideologi dari suatu kaum subkultur (Skinhead-Punk) yang selama ini telah memiliki ideologi anti kemapanan sebagai bentuk perlawanan terhadap kemewahan, hukum-hukum yang selalu menindas kaum kecil. Emo sengaja diciptakan sebagai salah satu “senjata” untuk memerangi dan mengalahkan ideologi Skinhead-Punk Segala jenis atribut yang mereka (Emo) kenakan yang lebih menonjolkan kemewahan, merk. Sudah jelas mereka bukan Skinhead-punk yang sebenarnya. Emo hanyalah sebuah bentuk kapitalisme musik, dan ideologi pro-kemapanan yang dikemas dan menyusup rapi ke dalam ideologi skinhead-punk yang selama ini sudah berakar kuat dalam benak para pengikutnya.